LINK: The whole ‘Autism Speaks’-tragedy from the humorous view of an Aspie. Just a brilliant summary!

http://www.dudeimanaspie.com/2013/11/the-autism-speaks-truth-be-told-fund.html?m=1

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The lack that locks #lovenotfear (blog2 by Ruuby May Blue)

The thing with being kind of ‘locked in’, has brought me many sleepless nights, wondering why this comes with being autistic. Even those on the spectrum, who have a detailed verbal expression are reporting about this ‘phenomenon’.

It might be a part of the daydreamy character of an autistic person,
it’s a following fact of ‘stimming away’,
it’s the fullness of information, that brings sensory overload, so that our eyes kind of drift away from substancial surface.

But today I see the whole mixture of facts, that lead to being cut off the rest of the world.
What was missing was THE REST OF THE WORLD.

And we see it very strongly in the media today, in the actions and reactions of our surrounding people, that there is a lack. There’s a lack of direct questioning.
A lack of will to understand.
A lack of understanding what ableism is, who does it and what it causes in the result.
A lack of willingness to overcome old patterns.
As we all know, these are common and natural problems of human kind. We should not be too bitter about it.

We should be bitter about that there’s a lack of love.

That people prefer to rely on scientific principles, than to focus on themselves and the connection of love to their fellows.
My opinion is: People should practice, perceive themselves.
Then this will be a better planet.

Maybe this is what autistic people can teach them.
Maybe.

Neurotypical medial ways of communication & empathy – a helpful ideal?

“Well, isn’t it strange, that some people are willing to accept a dog in their family, but will have problems to accept their own child?” (Michael Jackson)

What’s going on in one autistic mind, reading about autism in the media from one day to another? There have been times, not a single bird would have sung about a child with Kanner or Asperger autism. And especially not about a grown up.
Today researchers, journalists and even ‘wild activisting parents’ won’t give us a tiny space of peace in the internet or news.
One classification about autism haunts the other, we can’t help it.
And what’s going on, in an autistic mind, reading and hearing words of “healing the disease”, “vaccines” or such as “a burden” from parents of autistics over and over again?
I can’t tell you, what’s going on in other autistic minds, but I can give you a glance on what’s going on in my own.

It is not your responsibility, that your child is autistic.
It is his/her own merit.
But it is your responsibility, how you will treat him/her.
It is your responsibility, because it was you, who decided to give life.
It is your resposibility how the first feelings towards your person will build inside his/her chest, no matter if you can see them or not.
When have you “seen” all the feelings of your husband or your mother lately?
It is your responsibility to act reflected and responsible with another person’s secret emotions.
When have other grown ups shown and told you their independent and entire love all at once, while looking in your eyes? Your best friend for example?
You don’t expect them to, because you know they do?
So give me ONE damit reason for why the hell you expect that of your child?
You are the adult.
You know how things grow and bloom in life and how they fail and that pain, failure and dissappointed expectations belong to it.

I hear of many parents: “My son hasn’t come into my arms once. The doctor said he is autistic.” When the parents are asked about their childrens age, most of these kids talked about are less than four years old. So when the child has been assumed autistic, we know by now:

Children with autism CAN have an extended time, developing things.
So why aren’t they worth the time?

Children with autism DO HAVE a different expression!
So why aren’t they worth YOU learn their language, while they are having a hard time learning yours?

Children with autism HAVE a complete different sensory.
So why don’t you learn their way of “touching the world”?

Can’t you probably love your child? Do you have problems finding empathy for him/her? (This is exactly what you blame your child for and it IS the SAME THING, you don’t have priorities in your abilities.)

Before you are making a great disease out of your child and yourself and start listening to doctors and professors who make it even the ‘worst case’…
how about start listening to yourself? What’s your expectation? Do you find your expectations good, related to your taken responsibility? How would you feel someone to expect the same things of you?

Does anyone have further thoughts? Post here in blueprints.

Questions and answers:
We have heard and read a lot about this subject all over the world wide web now. But if you would collect the tabloids, you would find the same statements all over again. Why?
Can the press say something new about autism?
No.
Can researchers do something else than trying to manipulate genes and invent the ideal human?
No.
Can pills cure true diseases?
No.

Can we find other ways to communicate?
Yes.